Dealing with Conflict in a Conflict Filled World.

Conflicts are an inevitable part of human interaction. Whether they arise in personal relationships, our places of work, or even within the larger community, the way we handle conflict speaks volumes about our character and values. Amid tension and disagreements that we face in our lives, the words of Romans 12 offer a roadmap to navigating conflicts with grace, compassion, and understanding.

In Romans verse 12:18 the Scripture states, "If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone." (ESV)

The foundation of conflict resolution in Romans 12 is built upon the idea of seeking peace whenever possible. This verse reminds us that we have a responsibility to do our part in maintaining peace, even if the other party involved is unwilling to do so. It encourages us to take a step back, assess our actions and attitudes, and work towards a peaceful resolution.

In verse 19 the Apostle Paul writes, "Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: 'It is mine to avenge; I will repay,' says the Lord." (ESV)

In moments of conflict, our natural response might be to lash out or to seek out our own justice (revenge). However, Romans 12 advises us against the path of destruction and wrath. Instead, we're reminded that justice ultimately rests in the hands of almighty God. By letting go of the desire for revenge, we make room for healing and allow space for God's justice to prevail.

Verses 20-21 tell us how we should then live, when the Bible says, "On the contrary: 'If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.' Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good." (ESV)

This powerful passage confronts our flesh and calls us to respond to conflict with love and kindness, even toward those who oppose us. The act of showing compassion to our enemies goes beyond societal norms, this type of action puts on display the transformative power of grace. By doing good in the face of evil, we break the cycle of pessimism and promote an environment where reconciliation becomes possible.

Verse 16 takes it further when Scripture states, "Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited." (ESV)

Humility in relationships is an essential aspect of conflict resolution. Pride and conceit often fuel conflicts, making it difficult to find common ground. Romans 12 encourages humility and the willingness to empathize with those we disagree with. It is far harder to accomplish the task of reconciliation through this type of humility, however, the rewards of this labor far outweigh the results of allowing isolation and apathy to be our guides. When we seek to wash the feet of our enemy, we disarm them and hopefully allow for the power of the Holy Spirit to soften their hearts and our own heart to see the perspective from one another’s side.  

Finally, verse 9-10 emphasizes our need for authenticity, which only comes from having a deep relationship with Jesus, Paul writes, "Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves." (ESV)

At the heart of conflict resolution is genuine love and concern for the other person, even our enemies! Genuine love persuades us to prioritize the well-being of the other person, even amidst differences. By valuing others above ourselves, we create an atmosphere of respect that can promote open discussion and bridge the gap between differing viewpoints.

Romans 12 provides a roadmap for navigating conflicts through the lens of grace. Teaching us to actively pursue peace, let go of vindictive intentions, display kindness even to enemies, live in agreement, and practice genuine love. By living out these principles, we can transform disagreements into opportunities for growth, understanding, and eventually, reconciliation. As we embrace the grace offered in Romans 12, we embark on a journey toward nurturing healthier relationships and a more God-fearing world.

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